tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27391954849761949872024-03-18T22:51:14.330-04:00Mistress of Well-Intentioned IndecisionA glimpse into the heart of Elsha Hawk, a writer, Mom, teacher, and someone full of LOVE.ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.comBlogger249125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-12814117289784468972018-10-21T12:37:00.000-04:002018-10-21T12:37:07.452-04:00Don't EVER say God does things for a reason<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
There are some bad Christians out there, false prophets, twisting theology to their own means, creating in society a hatred for what they believe are Christian practices.<br />
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I'm going to focus on one.<br />
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DON'T EVER SAY "GOD DOES THINGS FOR A REASON"!<br />
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Don't ever tell a grieving parent that God needed their child as an angel.<br />
Don't ever tell a depressed person that God is letting them suffer for a reason that we don't understand.<br />
Don't ever tell a natural disaster survivor that their life was ripped apart as part of God's will.<br />
Don't say that God LETS bad things happen.<br />
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<b>Who are you to claim to know God's will??</b><br />
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Does that mean the 'bad people' who 'don't love God' are exempt? That he turns his back on them and does nothing to help them? NO. He is working to change the hearts of ALL people to love. Some people are not changed yet.<br />
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I will point to the scripture that says: "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. Gen 50:20" This is Joseph, grown up, forgiving his brothers for selling him into slavery at the age of 17.<br />
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It does not say GOD intended harm. GOD intended good. He took the bad situation, the negative consequences, and He found a way for His good to still happen.<br />
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So you might throw back at me Ecclesiastes chapter 3 "In everything there is a season, a time for... (vs 3) killing and a time for healing..." Does this mean God plans or allows bad things? NO. Killing was allowed as a punishment for some crimes under the Law of Moses, or in war, or in defending yourself. There is a time for killing, but <b>it is NOT God doing it in this scripture.</b><br />
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Stop pulling things out of context.<br />
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He works IN SPITE OF, THROUGH, AROUND, and IN THE MIDST OF our screw ups, our effects that we caused. He has a plan, a grand scheme, a goal, and it is good.<br />
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Listen, God is NOT the author, He is the master of reworking flaws. He is not creating situations in which His characters, His people, get hurt. He is not George R.R. Martin. He is a sculptor whose critical eye works with flaws to make something beautiful and good.<br />
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Tragedies happen and despite them, despite the evil in the world, God is there. He takes each hiccup we throw at him and he works it into the creation. Nothing we do can throw him off his goal.<br />
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GOD MAKES IT WORK.<br />
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In order to come into a spirit more closely aligned with God...<br />
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Let's be realistic. We are screwing things up in our lives if we personify God as having human qualities of jealousy, revenge, and a penchant for watching people fall down. The reality is that He sees it all and can predict certain outcomes based on our choices fueled by our emotional state. He <i>knows</i> us. He finds a way to bring us around that does not harm us.<br />
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Let's be forgiving, and not in the 'I'm sorry' kind of way. The word forgiveness means carrying the burden of sin for the other person. You don't let their actions have the intended effects. Work around, through, and in the midst of the issue, the drama, to heal. God forgives, not letting our causes have the effects we were heading towards.<br />
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Let's be trusting. Nothing is so evil it cannot be redeemed in the eyes of God. Even when EVERY instinct you have says the opposite, KNOW that God is good. Everything will work out for good. When every instinct says to hang on and not let go and let God take control, you have to give that burden over to Him. Or when every instinct says to give in and just forget living life, keep hope and trust in the power of God and good to win out.<br />
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Yes, life is unfair. There are consequences for actions that you have no control over that may affect you, blindside you, anger you, take you down. As long as you are still breathing, you can have faith that God is working through it to achieve good. Did he create the mess? No. He can make it work for good. Good for you, good for the world, good for your family, your life, your future.<br />
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Does that mean he has a 'reason' or 'lets things happen'? No. It means you have to trust that He has a goal and He is there working no matter what unfair thing happens to you as a result of some other cause. You are not in control and you cannot judge, nor ascribe traits to God who created everything. You have to trust. You have to believe. </div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-53833799137189200242018-07-11T17:29:00.000-04:002018-07-11T17:29:37.135-04:00Do you Grumble and Complain?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
We all know someone who seems to complain about EVERYTHING, right?<br />
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Too hot, too cold, too nice, too ugly, too fat, too sweet, these complaints drive us crazy. We tend to think these people can never be pleased, and that they aren't happy at all.<br />
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Perhaps they are not. Perhaps putting others and other things down makes them feel better about themselves. Perhaps they don't think about other's feelings and only their own, thus they are happy.<br />
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<b>If your heart, your insides, are low enough that you think bringing others down to your level is a good idea, let me tell you something. Bringing others down doesn't raise you up, it leaves you in a stinking morass of bodies you drowned.</b><br />
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I took my son to the fair. It was hot. The rabbits and poultry were being judged so their barns were closed. It was dusty and he was thirsty. He began to complain about his thirst, then demand a bottle of water. He began to sit down on benches and wait for me to browse. When I moved on, he followed me and began complaining, "Why did you bring me? I didn't want to come!"<br />
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I grew frustrated with his whining. "Stop! I don't want to hear it!"<br />
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The problem is that this is cyclical. <b>The sense of entitlement, that you deserve to be treated a certain way or have certain things is so pervasive, so ingrained in society that you can't stop doing it.</b> You get roped in and mired down in this way of thinking.<br />
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Most people just endure the negative talk wishing for the person to move on, because move on they will, to drag someone else down.<br />
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<b>How do you stop grumbling and complaining?</b><br />
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Of course you can start appreciating what you have, but this goes deeper than just counting blessings. <br />
You have to learn to see things from another person's point of view. You have to accept when you are wrong. You have to amend your thinking all the way down to the core of your being where you think you are not worthy.<br />
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Let me tell you. You are. You are worthy of good things. Let that sink in.<br />
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-46376488563171182942018-07-01T16:26:00.001-04:002018-07-01T16:26:43.418-04:00Is Jesus Real to You? Sunday Thoughts<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I normally do not comment upon religious or spiritual things except to promote spiritual health. I'm not one to rock boats. Today's question, however, comes with a few caveats.<br />
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Is Jesus real to you?<br />
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This question was posed to early Methodists, Lutherans, and Wesleyans by John Wesley. He wants your honesty deep within yourself. Yes or no?<br />
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Firstly, in a culture that knows ABOUT Him through stories from the Bible - the ark, the apple and the serpent, parting the waters, and the death and resurrection of Jesus - we have a stunted relationship WITH Him.<br />
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Many people grow up 'in the church' and never understand in their hearts what it is they hear. They don't feel it. Then all the questions are hedged and routines done just to keep people thinking you are a follower. My little nieces could tell you at two years old "Jesus!" or "God!" as the answer to every question in church. Some feel this is indoctrination, and it is. This practice, whether you find it foul or devout, is common. Yet you can recite, be indoctrinated, and STILL not believe.<br />
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It feels like taking a pre-test over information you haven't learned yet and then feeling dumb. You come completely unprepared. You feel defeated when you come seeking answers and get questions in response. There is a lot of mystery and vaguely worded scriptures do not always soothe.<br />
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Then there are some tough situations we find ourselves in before we seek spiritual guidance. When you bring a belief to the altar and find that others shun you for it, or that you don't get the answer you want, you stop wanting to know more. That feels like having sex before dating. You tried it but it didn't work. You met up, felt some desire, some need, but afterwards you left unfulfilled and full of regrets.<br />
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The Church, as a body of people, of sinners, invites you to take a pretty big step - to make a decision to believe and have a relationship with an omnipotent being. No one wants to do that after a let down. Neither do we want to do that without knowing what the reward will be. Is there instant gratification?<br />
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So they date their religion, never committing. Yes, a religion is like a marriage. You do have to commit. That is daunting. So you listen and participate, sing and volunteer, ask questions and try to find answers. Sometimes you date forever and people ask you if you are ever going to get married. Sometimes you leave and get back together and leave and get back together.<br />
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The second part of this is: How can the world know unless someone explains it to them?<br />
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We all learn through teachers. Watching someone take communion and hearing the language isn't enough to understand it. Reading the Bible may help you know the stories, but not enough to understand the meaning in the message.<br />
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In the old days, the days of the book of Acts, the early Christians did not have access to books. Having a scroll meant you were rich. Stories were passed by word of mouth. They didn't know ABOUT many things. When a new story came along, they had one chance, while the church leader was still there before he moved on to another village, to make a decision. Someone explained it all to them and they either got it or they didn't.<br />
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We are similar, except we are bombarded with information. We have to sift through it daily. We hear lots of stories, opinions, most of them contradictory. How do we know what is true and right? Who do you listen to?<br />
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For those who choose to believe that life ends at death, I hope you are able to be spiritually healthy enjoying nature, quiet time, or self-reflection. When you stop believing in Santa, you still get gifts, you just lose that innocent magical wonder. Perhaps the world is just a cynical place and you are one of the few bright spots - be kind, do good, and love others even if they seem unlovable.<br />
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Lastly, if Jesus is Real to You, and you have the Holy Spirit, it guides you through scriptures to the answers. You just KNOW things, intents, interpretations, by feeling them. How can I describe it? Your conscious feels similar, and your heart or gut instinct, to the Spirit. There is no other way to put it but it allows you to assimilate the information and just know what is meant. This is not a gift that Santa can give, nor is it instant gratification after accepting and believing. If you believe in alternate dimensions or realms, think about the Spirit as permeating your being. It's around you and in you like air and water vapor. It's just there. It's a 4-D thing in a 3-D world.<br />
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It also feels clean, fresh, and new. Like pure happiness, there is a cool breath that enters your lungs and sweeps out the bad and leaves behind the good. It's almost like being in love. If you can accept that as instant gratification, then that's what it is. A fleeting feeling. It's like the high of doing good things to help others. It's not pride in yourself, it's knowing you were a good person.<br />
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-15346843756211540252018-06-26T17:49:00.000-04:002018-06-26T18:01:19.288-04:00Making the Most of Summer<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I've been told that I haven't blogged in a while an I need to. Firstly, here's why:<br />
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<a href="https://hawkandyoung.com/">https://hawkandyoung.com</a> - 6 free short stories and their shiny new covers!<br />
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<a href="https://hawkandyoung.wordpress.com/">https://hawkandyoung.wordpress.com</a> - New author interviews, articles, and pleas for your help.<br />
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<a href="https://www.patreon.com/hawkandyoung">https://www.patreon.com/hawkandyoung</a> - Support me and my co-author's writing endeavors!<br />
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<a href="https://rejectedmanuscripts.org/shortfiction/son-of-hades/">https://rejectedmanuscripts.org/shortfiction/son-of-hades/</a> - vote for our short story to make it into an anthology!<br />
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I've been entering lots of writing contests, too. There are still 2 entries out waiting for rejections. :P<br />
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Soon I have to get back into my classroom and transform it for a new school year full of new challenges. I'm taking my summer break and LOVING the most out of it!<br />
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People ask me, 'do you have any big summer plans?' Well no, and while we sort of wanted to go to Holiday World this summer, which is like a 200 dollar day trip, we've had 2,000 dollars in medical bills to pay with 3 more on the way of an unknown amount.<br />
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Yes, with insurance. Except for the dog's heartworm treatment, we do not have pet insurance.<br />
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Blessings though, there was a time when 2,000 dollars would have been the end for us. We continue to struggle, yes, but it is not completely insurmountable. We will crawl out from under this and be okay.<br />
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But let's not dwell on the numbers, rather, let's look at us being healthy and making the most of our days.<br />
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Sunday the weather was perfect for a swim. Afterward I made a fire in the fire pit and there were no biting bugs, a cool breeze, and partly cloudy skies. It was perfection.<br />
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While I woke up with a headache today, I could sleep in. That small luxury alone is a huge blessing. I could read a book in comfort and not even get dressed. I could take a bubble bath or a nap. This is the kind of day I dream about having during the school year when I'm working and the weather changes and I feel crummy but I have to go to work and deal with my students also feeling crummy.<br />
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Before that happens, I want to use up the coupons in my wallet. I have all these little free food coupons I was gifted before I left school to places I don't normally go. Let's try something new! It could be a week of 'never leave your city' or 'staycation' trips where I and the boys pretend to be tourists in our own town. If they would go for that.<br />
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I want to keep having mini dates with hubby. Even though I sometimes complain that we never go where I want to go because we can't afford it, or he wouldn't enjoy it so I can't enjoy something I would have otherwise enjoyed (like parades, air shows, zip lining, or theme parks), I still enjoy talking to him about our book series, going to places, and being with him. He tells me that he takes me places just to be with me. If I can't go to Monday night Trivia, even though everyone else there is either his family or his friends, he says he won't go without me. I need a friend to go with me to some of those other places that he won't.<br />
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I want to paint a picture and color an adult coloring book page.<br />
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I want to read a bunch of books in my library. I'm reading Game of Thrones right now.<br />
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I want to work my butt off writing. Things are getting rejected, things are getting accepted. I'm making tons of new writer friends on Twitter and getting some awesome words down on "paper" every day.<br />
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Some days I wax poetic:<br />
<i>Hold onto me </i><br />
<i>and I'll hold onto you. </i><br />
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<i> If I feel your grip </i><br />
<i>slacken a little in mine </i><br />
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<i> My grip will fail </i><br />
<i>We'll both drift off into spac</i>e<br />
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Angry, Baby<br />
<i>It's an angry day </i><br />
<i>dream in anger </i><br />
<i>Frustrations fall on deaf ears </i><br />
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<i>It's an angry month </i><br />
<i>nightmares reign </i><br />
<i>Timelines don't sync up </i><br />
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<i>Been an angry year </i><br />
<i>Money spent </i><br />
<i>Hopes faded to dark </i><br />
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<i>What comes after anger? </i><br />
<i>Acceptance </i><br />
<i>Bring on the numbness</i><br />
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Or haiku:<br />
<i>Our story book ends </i><br />
<i>Dusk rainbow soft before night </i><br />
<i>New story begins</i><br />
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Sometimes I ponder myself and my values:<br />
<i>You say there is freedom in not tweeting what you were gonna say, but I
shudder to think that you are dishonest with me. I get that some things
are better left unsaid, but if it would change the course of history for
the better, even brutal honesty has its place.</i><br />
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Sometimes I go back to high school:<br />
<i>I watched you open your locker from across the hall. You pulled out my
note, started to unfold it. Your buddy jumped on your shoulder and you
silently slid it into your pocket. My heart beats 'keep reading', 'keep
reading' as I walk to class.</i><br />
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Sometimes I raise the temperature:<br />
<i>At a loss for words, your dripping chest emerges from the hot tub. "Join
me?"
Slowly, I strip off my clothes and take your hand to step into the
bubbles, my temperature rising with more heat inside that out.</i><br />
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<i>The offer dangled before him like the apple of Eve's sin. He wanted so
badly to taste it, but hadn't yet decided which he would regret more,
having done it, or having not. His head said turn away, but his body
lusted forward. His heart was torn.</i><br />
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<i>Beneath the brim of his black fedora, two brown eyes smoldered. My
breath caught in my chest. A slow smile crept across my mouth as a blush
colored my cheeks and I forced my eyes down.
"You like my hat?"
I wanted to fling myself at him and connect my lips with his.</i><br />
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Sometimes I'm random:<br />
<i>The plane began a tail spin, dropping out of the sky. My heart dropped
with it as the pilot ejected. News media claimed the pilot was fine, but
I looked at the bruised face attached to the hand I held in the army
hospital, willing him to wake.</i><br />
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<i>Gazing in wonder at your tiny fingers and tiny toes, thinking about how
people congratulate me for making you, but you were not made by me. You
are beautiful, full of hope and promise. I did nothing but carry you and
I will carry you for the rest of your life.</i><br />
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<i>Puckering up is lips in thought, he cocked his little head, then declared, "It means you have to say you're sorry?" </i><br />
<i>"While you should apologize for a mistake, it means you have to try again." </i><br />
<i>"Re-sil-ien-cy" </i><br />
<i>"Kids have it. Adults don't."</i><br />
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And then I dream:<br />
<i>I saw you and I found my feet flying towards you, huge smile bringing
tears. First I hugged you, held you, felt your warmth and strength as
some tears leaked out. I sniffed and blinked, backing up to look in
wonder at your face. Was this real?</i><br />
<a href="https://hawkandyoung.wordpress.com/2018/06/14/ellysian-empire-united-under-one-banner/">https://hawkandyoung.wordpress.com/2018/06/14/ellysian-empire-united-under-one-banner/</a></div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-8706067344954298032018-04-22T11:16:00.001-04:002018-04-22T11:16:33.290-04:00Trust Takes These Three Things<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I've always thought that I would write a book about <span style="color: red;">Love</span>. I have notes and research on <span style="color: red;">Love</span> and even made a little powerpoint to share some of my ideas and my perspective on <span style="color: red;">Love</span>.<br />
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The problem is, <span style="color: red;">Love</span> is a HUGE topic. There are many facets to it and I have never found my niche in the topic.<br />
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Until today.<br />
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It's not really <span style="color: red;">Love</span> that I'm an expert in. Who is. really?? It's <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span>.<br />
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> is a key element in relationships and one that I take very seriously. Can you <span style="color: red;">Love </span>someone deeply, wholly, and fully if you can't <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> them? <b>No.</b><br />
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> is hard-won and not easily given out. I know I guard my <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> with impenetrable walls. I don't let people even prove their trustworthiness to me without several tests. It might make me a doubter to not <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> others right away, but you learn to protect yourself and to see red flags that indicate a person might not be honest.<br />
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When your <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> is broken, you are hurt. You suffer. You learn to guard it more closely and not give out your heart so easily.<br />
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But you have to give it out again. It might take a while to make this decision after you've been hurt. The healing process should take at least as long as the build up of the relationship to the hurtful moment. So if you knew someone for 3 years and then they turned on you, it might take 3 years for you to forgive them, forget some of their tresspasses, and begin to<span style="color: #274e13;"> <b>Trust</b></span> someone else.<br />
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So what does it take to <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span>?<br />
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It takes three things.<br />
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1. <b><span style="color: #351c75;">Reliability</span></b> - Keeping Promises. A person must prove that they do exactly what they say they are going to do. This can be a simple as calling you when they say they are going to call you. If they say, "Hey, I'm gonna call you right back," and they never do or have some excuse that's lame for not doing so, they haven't passed the first test of <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span>.<br />
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This is the easiest series of tests. You can <span style="color: #274e13;">entrust</span> them with more and more promises and if they keep them, they are well on their way to breaking through to your inner walls.<br />
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2. <b><span style="color: #741b47;">Acceptance</span></b> - For who you are. <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> is earned when a person truly accepts you for who you are, no matter what was in your past. They don't gossip about your past, brag that they 'fixed' you, nor act like they are better than you. If they act like they 'saved' you. they are still seeing the past you and they have the potential to pull that wildcard out and accuse you of reverting to said behavior so they can 'save' you again. Instead, they encourage you, listen to you, and believe that you can be awesome. They won't try to beat you at everything in life and accept your successes.<br />
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This is harder to prove and takes more time with the person. If you are in <span style="color: red;">Love</span> with them at this point, you might not see that they think they are your savior and will be blindsided later by their competition and wanting to be better than you. If they don't exhibit trait number three, that is.<br />
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3. <b><span style="color: #134f5c;">Honesty</span></b> - Not saying what others want to hear. You're probably hanging out a lot with this person and you might witness their interactions with other friends. Do they talk bad about them behind their backs? Do they tell the others what they think they want to hear? Don't fool yourself into thinking that they would not do the same behind your back. They would.<br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c;">Honesty</span> is an inherent trait in those that are trustworthy and is present at the <span style="color: #351c75;">Reliability</span> stage. You will witness it in their explanations for being late or asking for forgiveness for breaking a promise. You will see it in their<span style="color: #741b47;"> Acceptance</span>, as they tell you what they really think about people like you, how they struggle with concepts and are learning, or how they deal with situations. If you are seeking a relationship with a person and they go behind others' backs with their words, hiding their true feelings, then they can easily hide their feelings from you.<br />
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These three things I value most in a friend. I will <span style="color: red;">Love </span>you with all my being and forever if I can <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> you. I am <span style="color: #134f5c;">honest</span> in keeping my promises and will not promise things I cannot do. If you ask and I think I cannot do it, I will let you know my anxieties. <b>If I'm telling you my anxieties, I expect you to share yours at some point in return.</b><br />
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I can <span style="color: #741b47;">Accept</span> you where you are right now and encourage you to be a better you. If I struggle with the lifestyle you led before, I will talk with you about it to gain <span style="color: #b45f06;">clarity</span>. <b>I expect <span style="color: #134f5c;">honesty</span> and <span style="color: #b45f06;">clarity</span> in return.</b> I expect answers to my questions, or if it is too painful for you, honestly tell me that you wish not to tell me right now.<br />
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<span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span> is a huge part of <span style="color: red;">Love</span>. If you want to get into my inner circle, closest to my heart, you have to pass these tests of <span style="color: #274e13;"><b>Trust</b></span>. I hold the closest walls shut tight for fear of really hurting in betrayal. Sometimes I feel like no one really 'knows' me because of this, but actually, people do. They can see over that wall and into my true being if they get that close. They figure me out like the final puzzle to win the key to my heart. That's when I know it is safe to give it.</div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-26816712009678562102018-03-11T13:49:00.001-04:002018-03-11T18:56:36.148-04:00Self-Reflection and a Call to Action<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I'm in a place to do some self-reflecting today. I've needed a 'mental health' day for a while now. I put those off and I really shouldn't. Sometimes I get a little bit of self-reflection at church, but that is not nearly enough.<br />
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Looking back over this blog, I see that I talk about 'balance', 'well-being', 'mental health', and 'love', 'happiness', 'marriage', or 'friendship' most often. I think that is my niche. Besides writing, of course.<br />
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I am highly introspective. Not everyone is. In fact, if you know you are feeling or acting crazy, you most likely can figure a way out of it, whether that crazy is manic or depressive.<br />
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So, if you aren't introspective, you probably need advice. I love to bounce ideas off of people, I just never considered myself an expert of any kind, nor do I profess to have all the answers. I feel my posts are pretty lame. Who am I to give out tips?<br />
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While I hold no degrees nor certifications, I do have a wealth of knowledge that may be of service to others. Is there anything you've read about in my posts that you want to know more about?<br />
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I felt compelled to help those who may be experiencing abusive relationships. There is help. There is a way out. Find someone to talk to and a safe place to go. Call the hotline if you are in the United States, and learn what hotlines or resources there are in your country. Don't stay in an abusive relationship.<br />
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-41175906089182580152017-11-20T15:52:00.000-05:002018-03-11T19:05:17.270-04:00Soulmate<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Most people think their spouse is supposed to be their soulmate.<br />
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I know I did.<br />
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I think this belief is propagated in Disney Princess movies. Our Prince Charming, Aladdin, Eric, or Flynn is supposed to be perfect and someone we can live happily ever after with.<br />
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Did you know that you can have more than one soulmate?<br />
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I'm not talking about polygamy, polyamory, adultery, or any of that stuff.<br />
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I'm talking about redefining the term Soulmate.<br />
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Sounds right. Thanks Dawson's Creek.<br />
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But no where does it say that this person has to be your spouse, the opposite gender, or the same age. No where does it say that this person remains in your life forever. No where does it say that this isn't several people, who may or may not be in your life at the same time.<br />
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different times of our lives we will need and want different types of
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<span style="font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"></span><b></b><i></i><u></u><sub></sub><sup></sup>How do you know if you have found a soulmate?</div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">1. <b>Indescribable Connection</b></span></div>
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Firstly, you will feel a sense of having known this person for all of your life. They will 'get' you. You will 'get' them. </div>
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<li>You may experience HUGE changes when you meet. You may shift directions entirely. You may experience emotions you never knew you could feel - extreme highs and lows.</li>
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<span style="font-size: large;">2.<b> Intertwining passions </b></span></div>
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This is probably how you will meet. You both will love the same things. When you get together and work on those things, you will challenge and inspire each other to greater heights than ever before. You feel the need to team up and conquer something.</div>
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When we get together we pop off like Fourth of July - Hollyn</blockquote>
<span style="font-size: large;">3<b>. Complete Ease</b></span><br />
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There is no guilt, no nerves, no shame when you are around your soul mate. Despite what society, religion, culture, has to say, when you two are together, everything is perfect. No one has to understand you, but you.<br />
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<li>You will know what the other person is thinking or feeling intuitively.</li>
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<span style="font-size: large;">4. <b>Mutual Growth</b></span><br />
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Lastly, you both will grow together. You learn from each other's failures and when you are apart, you still grow and learn. You bring out the best in each other. <br />
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The hard part: <br />
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Sometimes, once the lesson is learned, the person will drift away, having completed their mission. You will never forget them.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Here's the part you need to understand.</span></b><br />
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This is<b> not</b> the same as a Life Partner.<br />
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Soulmates can be your Life Partner, but they don't have to be. It's only in recent times that we expect our spouses to be in tune to us. Think about it.<br />
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(<a href="https://www.littlethings.com/1950s-good-housewife-guide-vas/">Or read here</a>.)<br />
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Your spouse is your Life Partner.<br />
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What is a Life Partner?<br />
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<li>Your relationship is based on being physically present and creating new
memories.</li>
<li>You both feel a sense of financial and emotional stability by being
together.</li>
<li>You resonate with each others beliefs, ideas or religion/philosophy.</li>
<li>Your relationship is based on logical or intellectual decisions.</li>
<li>You get along like best friends- your relationship does not suffer from
extremes.</li>
<li>You enjoy getting to know each other and learn about your differences
and similarities- everything about each other feels new and exciting.</li>
<li>You feel attracted to each other physically and resonate with each
others values.</li>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="background-attachment: scroll; background-clip: border-box; background-image: none; background-origin: padding-box; background-position: 0% 0%; background-repeat: repeat; background-size: auto; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><b><span style="background-color: white;"><a href="http://foreverconscious.com/the-difference-between-soulmates-and-life-partners">http://foreverconscious.com/the-difference-between-soulmates-and-life-partners</a></span></b></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></div>
<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="background-attachment: scroll; background-clip: border-box; background-image: none; background-origin: padding-box; background-position: 0% 0%; background-repeat: repeat; background-size: auto; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><b><span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span></b></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span>
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<span style="color: #222222; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="background-attachment: scroll; background-clip: border-box; background-image: none; background-origin: padding-box; background-position: 0% 0%; background-repeat: repeat; background-size: auto; margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #222222; line-height: 115%; margin: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;"></span></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">This distinction has helped me greatly and I hope it helps you, too.</span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></div>
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-57427140397613739022017-08-05T16:55:00.002-04:002017-08-05T16:55:46.867-04:00Championing for Students Who Fall in the Cracks<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Back to school is a busy time for me: classroom set-up, lesson planning, copying, new unhappy parents...<br />
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I am a teacher and a parent in the United States. I was going through teacher training as changes were already made and being implemented in the fields of Standardized Testing and Special Education. I held some strong beliefs back then about both and I still have them now, even as I've watched the two areas merge.<br />
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The parent I talked to held to the belief that students were put into Special Education to fill a 'quota' so the school could get their 'money' from the government. This father was right, however, the student in question wasn't attending a Title I school. I didn't talk about this fact, go into any politics, rather, my focus was on the student.<br />
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His concern was valid for his child, that his child was placed, or tracked, into the wrong 'track' for him.<br />
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This is what I was championing for back in college. This is what I would grow combative over, what made my heart both bleed and rage; students who fall through the cracks and get left behind in a system that doesn't cater to the 'in-betweens'.<br />
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In this case, the student and his dedicated family were not given the chance to learn what the skills he needs to succeed. They were told the school was doing what was best and the student was thriving and doing well. Sure, when you don't challenge a student to their full potential and he picks up on everything easily because he's not 'dumb', then he will thrive. He will look like a star.<br />
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But as he grows up, he will not be given the same opportunities once he is 'tracked' into a low achieving education system. The barriers that existed when he was small do not exist now that he is older. The excuses they used to place him are no longer valid. It's time for him to fly.<br />
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As a teacher, I have an obligation to push my students, to teach them as much as they can learn. I have an obligation to challenge myself to learn more to stay ahead of them.<br />
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I feel this is my calling, this role, to champion for the little guys who get stuck in the cracks. I'm donning my armor and getting ready for this fight. It might take 3 years to get him on 'track', but it will be worth it.</div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-15090090437587934372017-07-30T16:00:00.002-04:002017-07-30T16:00:38.341-04:00New Doghouse and Firepit = New Backyard<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I wanted to share some of the things that made me happy this week. For one, we FINALLY finished building the new doghouse.<br />
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We added a covered wing for lounging. It is a doggy resort and spa now with the pool. Sadly, I noticed two small holes in the pool. They are high enough on the sides to allow a decent amount of water to remain, but that means a new pool for next year.<br />
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Secondly, since the old doghouses needed to be burned and my fire bowl was destroyed, I needed that fire pit I've been dreaming of for years.<br />
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Here's a couple videos of the demolition.<br />
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Sorry the second one is tilted. I don't know why it didn't auto adjust during filming. I know I'm supposed to film in landscape, not portrait, so I turned it, but it didn't turn with me!<br />
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With the new firepit and new doggie resort, it feels like a new backyard. Cleaning up and creating a space for something I love, fire, is a great investment.</div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-14510397312124161442017-07-24T17:11:00.000-04:002018-03-11T19:06:57.622-04:00Get on With Living and Loving<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I made this meme using a quote and an image:<br />
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I like the way the devil and the angel remind us about eternity, while also about living and loving to the fullest in one image. <br />
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Plus, it's pretty hot! I saw it years ago and saved it. If you know who made it, let me know so I can give proper credit.<br />
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My husband said, "Hey, I just said that last night!" because he did say <i>we'd better spend whatever time we have together before we don't have it anymore</i>. As you get older, the years tick by faster and faster.<br />
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It also reminds me <b>not</b> to play it safe. Sometimes we have to take risks, little leaps of faith, put our trust in people or things in order to get to accomplish our goals; step out of our comfort zones.<br />
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-75235532645140319442017-07-24T12:09:00.000-04:002017-07-27T08:49:06.893-04:00Overraction: What Do You Do If Things Get Out of Hand?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">(I had a co-worker, the same one in the previous post, who became irate at one point in the course of our working together at the working situations. They pointed all failures at me. Our conversation was documented, by me, as I tried to puzzle out what else to do.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">(I don't remember making excuses, but continuing to try new things. I don't remember apologizing, either, which may have been a mistake, but the situation was a condition of our employment and these things happen. We can't prevent them all. I reached out to my support team for strategies. We had to deal with this and face it every day.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial";">(I had to help explain how the person in crisis was feeling. During crisis, I had to remind my team of procedure, the agreed upon steps to try from my support team and training. We had to debrief, what worked, what didn't, after the crisis moment was over. Then we could plan for the next time.)</span></div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-21177812108143261262017-07-23T19:12:00.000-04:002017-07-27T08:43:51.836-04:00Overcome Your Fear and JUMP IN!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: "arial";">(I used to have a co-worker that I needed to confront. I idolized this person because they had more experience and I went to them for advice. However, I was higher in rank and felt manipulated into their ideas on how things should work. They would get really mad when I tried<span style="font-size: small;"></span> to do things differently, as was my prerogative as the superior.)</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 14pt; font-variant: normal;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 14pt; font-variant: normal;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 14pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;">Step Three: Then it’s time to do one small thing to face your fear. Speak up with an introduction, get closer to the thing that scares you. Many times I imagined a situation would turn out worse than it was once I had to face it. The reactions I expected didn’t occur, or they were much milder.</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">(When I finally confronted her, she was upset with the change I'd made. It worked out that the change was sorta her idea, however it didn't work out the way she wanted. She was put in charge of a group, but didn't get to have lunch break with her favorite conspirator anymore. Would she figure out a way to make this happen, so she could get a lunch break with her again? Probably. Would she figure out a reason to make another change in her favor, possibly. This time, I would be ready. All changes can be undone.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">(I certainly am in control of this situation, as I am the highest rank in my department. I needed to find unity and support for my actions and decisions in order to go through with them. I needed to gain some perspective on the situation and allow myself to jump in and make changes. I had to admit that not everything in my department was peachy, that I did not have control, in order to gain it back.)</span></div>
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-86711615603281115822017-07-22T18:00:00.002-04:002017-07-22T18:00:20.583-04:00Minimalism can lead to Adventure<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I made this meme today. It's kinda funny because the knight needs things like armor to have his adventures. I guess they are not adventures if they aren't dangerous. </div>
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I'm not saying to not be a little prepared. What this meme means is to save up for things you find great enjoyment from, experiences, rather than simply things.<br />
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<b>If you are lacking in adventure, maybe it's time to re-prioritize your spending.</b><br />
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Are you buying collectibles, nick-nacks, antiques, or other items that do not bring you joy? Maybe they do bring you joy for a time. Maybe they do serve a purpose. Do you have any that don't continue to serve a purpose and you can sell?<br />
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Create an adventure savings or a rainy day fund. <br />
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You don't even have to plan your adventure. You can be spontaneous. <br />
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Our big project this summer was to turn one wall of our living room into a library. This inspired us to make our entertainment system a display worthy of video game hall of fame.<br />
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You can see behind my sons and nephews that the bookshelves we had were full to bursting and quite unattractive, yet eclectic.<br />
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We went to <a href="https://www.lowes.com/">Lowe's</a> for all of our supplies from paint, to rail shelving, to cube storage.<br />
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The far wall is painted this luscious chocolate color by Valspar called Deep Earth. It complemented the espresso bookshelves well. I painted the screws and washers we used to mount the wall, but the brackets and rails being black seem to disappear into the background.<br />
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Ignore the teaching materials on the ottoman and you can see the finished product. There are more cubes behind the chair in the corner.<br />
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The decorative lamp in the middle space is standing on a 3-cube unit on it's side to give it proper height. We removed the glass shade and used an old fashioned globe style bulb to give the library an old industrial feel. Maybe a little steampunk? <br />
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The desk lamp version of this with a long ovular bulb is behind the chair.<br />
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We all have commented how inviting the living room is now! We just want to curl up with a good book and read, or turn off the lights and play a video game or watch a DVD.<br />
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What I really want is new living room furniture. The couch is falling apart, the ottoman lid is broken. The only piece still intact is the recliner!<br />
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I feel a library such as this deserves a chaise lounge. Don't you?</div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-47597055966012790592017-07-19T11:05:00.002-04:002018-03-24T17:51:32.808-04:00Fight Writer's Block and Find Your Missing Muse<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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While stepping back from a work is good practice in order to come back to it with fresh eyes, when you're not finished with a piece and it's not time to edit, stepping away for a break creates a block in the flow of energy. The muse goes missing. They say for every day your take off writing, your muse will take off three!<br />
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Some of the ways in which I fight back against my missing muse are to:</h3>
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<b>Read</b>. I've devoured books this summer, most of which to honor my muse as they are his favorites.<br />
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<b>Color</b>. The monotony of coloring busies the right and left brains just enough to let the mind wander. You can get some problem solving done as you enter your subconscious and sort of daydream your worries into submission. This also works with <b>cross stitch</b>. I have a huge lion I've been stitching for 14 years. I just do a little when I feel the need to get into this subconscious flow. I used to do it on particularly bad period days when the cramps were completely unbearable and all I could do was sit, but after my ablation, I don't have those anymore.<br />
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<b>Write microfiction</b>. Just getting a small idea out, writing to a prompt or challenge on ficlatte.com, can ease the desire for writing something when there seems to be no direction for such creative outlet.<br />
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<b>Brainstorm</b>. I have been following my muse so closely that I have forgotten how to brainstorm for myself. That's why writing Xar felt so good. I wanted to do something awesome. I had it critiqued and it got great reviews and I tweaked it. It is set to go into our short story anthology. Yet I need to keep writing my own things as Elsha Hawk, too. Get out a blank sheet of paper and just write everything that comes to your mind. When you begin to focus on one, expand it and write a few paragraphs or a character sketch.<br />
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<b>Review old writings</b>. Looking back into writer's notebooks, into old online microfiction, I search for one liners, or single lines, that are really good and really inspiring. Then I take them in a new direction. I've changed entire stories that way. Once I started with a cultist community that lived in the clouds who met a rival cloud community, but it changed to an island community where a stranger washed ashore and challenged their beliefs.<br />
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<b>Doodle.</b> Speaking of character sketches, perhaps you can draw people better than I can and you prefer to wake up your muse by drawing a character from your brainstorming session. You could also just pick up a pencil and doodle, entering that subconscious space until you've worked out where you need to be.<br />
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I don't <b>listen to music</b> and get inspired very often because I'm partially an auditory learner and so I pay too much attention to the music to enter that subconscious space. Some people, however, are able to do this.<br />
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<b>Paint.</b> Notice a trend? Creative pursuits that allow you to space out and enter that subconscious zone.<br />
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<b>Puzzles.</b> I get crazy when I put together a jigsaw puzzle. I sing out loud to myself, get rather loopy and silly, and say some crazy things. There's something about the quiet and concentration and failure and determination during a puzzle build that puts me in a mood of restlessness. I am determined to finish it, to not let it best me, but I want to get out of it so much that I escape into humor.<br />
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I'm sure you have other ways. Why don't you share them with the class? Leave a comment!</div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-76131998652122898252017-06-04T09:04:00.004-04:002017-06-04T09:07:23.671-04:00Two Faces - Putting on a Good Show<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I came across a quote today posted by <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DailyPlug/?hc_ref=NEWSFEED&fref=nf">Daily Plug</a> on Facebook.<br />
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<span class="_5yl5">It's frustrating knowing how terrible of a person someone actually is, but everyone loves them because they put on a good show. </span></blockquote>
This is why I now have a few gray hairs.<br />
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See, I fell for the show for a year and half. I learned from a person who was wise, kind, had a HUGE heart, and big opinions. I learned to have a thicker skin, to be more pessimistic and see things from a different point of view. I learned many skills I needed to survive. This person was a mentor.<br />
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Until I grew.<br />
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I grew from my study of them. I learned. As I grew, I tried to do what they do, to take the control that they possessed, which was my right. See, I was their ranking superior. I treated them with the respect of a peer and even a superior for a while when I was learning. As I grew, though, I needed to take over. They needed to phase out.<br />
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They didn't like that.<br />
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I cried myself to sleep. I talked to a few people about it and got some great advice. This person was going to make a mistake, say things to the wrong person, or tick someone off, and as long as I was keeping my nose clean and butt covered, I'd be fine. I knew they were trying to cover their own butt, so I had to cover mine.<br />
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This meant documentation. If anything went amiss, I needed to write it down. This person was good though, both in the way they performed their job, and in their good-natured heart. I began to examine what things upset me as well as what things upset them.<br />
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It was about control and action. They wanted control and quick action on events and trials that occurred in the workplace. I was supposed to have the control, the power, and I like to think before I act. I also do not like confrontation, so I did not have good conversations with them. I was not going to cry at work.<br />
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This person continued to offer up suggestions for the way I should do things. Sometimes I followed them and sometimes I didn't. I made schedule changes that they didn't like by having them switch lunches to supervise kids instead of have lunch with their best friend. I planned things for myself to do and they sat back and scoffed when I didn't do them their way, sending me 'warning' comments across the room. (It was a cooking lesson and they were a better cook, so they had comments about timing of parts of the meal and heat settings on the stove.) But I was the superior in rank in the room. If it didn't work out, it was a teachable moment for all of us. Not everything had to be perfect.<br />
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Fortunately, this person moved away. In the time leading up to this, I tried harder and harder to take control back. The person was not happy at all. They began to push others away with their complaints and negative attitude. I talked to others who also worked with this person and found out THEY were putting on a show of liking the person, too. I felt better. It wasn't just me.<br />
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I saw beneath the mask. I wasn't alone. Others could see beneath it, too. It's just not polite to talk about what you see behind the mask because it's often so ugly. Sometimes you need to know that others can see it, too. It makes living with the person more bearable.<br />
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I learned many things. <br />
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1. <i>Life is short</i> and you so have to make decisions, sometimes quick ones. <br />
2. <i>Say no and don't fret about what others think.</i> Sometimes you have to be the bad guy. Sometimes you have to yell. You can go back later and debrief. <br />
3. <i>Document everything that can be traced back to you</i>. Every action that another person will find out about. Make sure that if you use electronic communication that big issues go through email or paper notes and not texting or messaging.<br />
4. <i>Find a good friend to talk to about things.</i> Don't keep it all inside. If your good friends still see the mask and not what's behind it, find a co-worker or someone else who might understand.<br />
5.<i> Cry.</i> Go ahead and cry it out, in private or in public when appropriate.<br />
6. <i>Evaluate </i>your own actions, your own masks. Make decisions. Change things. Grow. If you need time, take it.<br />
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-20682593440354536552017-05-02T20:06:00.001-04:002017-05-02T20:06:35.876-04:00Marvelous May - Choosing to see the good for Mental Health Month<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
May is always a good month for me. It's my anniversary month (15 years this year!), my birthday month (older than 15), Mother's Day, and a break from work at the end for Memorial Day.<br />
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It's also Mental Health Month.<br />
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I love this inclusive infographic about self-care. Self-care is SOOO important.<br />
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Day 2, he sent me two GIFs. (ha ha punny) One was a crystal and one was a watch because those are the gifts you traditionally and modernly receive on your 15th anniversary.<br />
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I'm determined to make May the best month, to live up to its reputation, but it's entirely all about my ATTITUDE and choosing to SEEK AND FIND THE GOOD.<br />
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-31083427551144788282017-04-03T11:54:00.000-04:002017-04-03T11:54:22.305-04:00My Baby Turns 10<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
My youngest turned 10 years old this weekend. Now, 10 year old boys are still crude in their behavior and language and they don't quite 'get' the world around them. They see the top layers and nothing underneath. They should have a decent grasp on manners, but they forget in their rush to enjoy life how to use them. They laugh at jokes you didn't think they understood, and soon you realize that they don't completely. They still need hugs and reassurance because they still have fears, but they want more independence and a later bed time.<br />
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When I asked him what he wanted to do for his birthday, he couldn't decide. The available options for parties in this town were all done before he was 9; bowling, bouncing, laser tag, roller skating (not cool since 1st grade), and Bogey's fun center which isn't fully open due to cooler temperatures.<br />
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My husband suggested a movie. 2 hours of 10-year-old boys seated and mostly quiet?? Yes! So we met at the movie theater and paid for the earliest (and cheapest) show tickets. It cost a lot less than a party at one of those overused establishments. <br />
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The boys asserted their independence by wandering into 2 stores on their own a few yards from our table. I think the store clerks had little heart attacks, but when I and another Mom showed up, they calmed down. Plus, in true 10 year-old fashion, they bought candy. It was more about buying candy with your friends in the Mall than learning a lesson about spending your birthday money unwisely on a 4 dollar bag of gummy bears. (One smaller than the one pictured.) That's a lesson for another day!<br />
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-3964995867550593912017-03-27T12:20:00.001-04:002017-04-04T18:22:21.771-04:00No More Muffin Top<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I pulled on a pair of jeans yesterday and thought it was just the jeans.<br />
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It wasn't until today when I pulled on a second pair that I believed it.<br />
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No more muffin top!<br />
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This makes me really excited. I've watched the scale's numbers descend since December, but I hadn't really seen the results on my body until the jeans hugged my hips and laid nicely against my belly.<br />
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Diet and Exercise, people.<br />
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I've been making sure I have a balanced and healthy lunch, a breakfast that is filling but not sugary, and a dinner that includes a protein and a vegetable. Then I watch the snacks and treats closely.<br />
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Usually, I can do about 5 miles on the elliptical, but recently I began stopping after the first mile to do 10 burpees, then after the second to do about 6 more, but after mile 3 I hit that 'runner's high' where my legs don't burn and I just go. Then I stretch out and do some ab exercises. <br />
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If I don't have time for an elliptical workout, I do some HIIT exercises or make sure I get a few extra walks into my day.<br />
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Some days are harder than others to get in any exercise, and we all need rest days. I used to be guilty of eating poorly on rest days. One change I had to make was to stick to my 'work diet' on weekends as closely as possible. Otherwise I am way too tempted by sweets!<br />
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The point is, watch what you eat and get what exercise you can. <br />
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Think about it, plan for it, and do it. It feels great.</div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-90972317937607767592017-02-21T13:00:00.000-05:002017-02-21T13:00:49.296-05:00Physical Health - Say No to Fad Diets<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
As I age I find myself more concerned about my health. To prove this point, a small group of 3 women, two of which with children my exact age and one who is closer to my age, were standing behind me in church before the service began talking about their fad diets and how much they lost or wanted to lose and what health reasons they had for doing so. I thought to myself, "<i>Is this going to be me in 20 more years when my children are may age now?</i>" and I also thought, "<i>Will I be this concerned about my body in 20 years?"</i> <br />
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The answer is No and Yes. <br />
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<b>No</b>, in 20 years, as long as I take care to educate and train myself, I won't be obsessed with fad diets and X-number-of-day programs. 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<b>Yes</b>, I will be just as concerned about my physical health as I should be. I want to be here for another 20 years. I want to be healthy and active for another 20 years. I want young adults to look up to me the way I look up to them and ask, what's your secret?<br />
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I won't say that I tried every fad diet known to man.<br />
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There is no secret. It's that I eat right all the time, not for some X-Number-Of-Days and I take my vitamins, a multivitamin every day, not some drops you add to water for so many days, and I exercise in ways I find fun. <br />
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ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-63540550857191281922017-02-20T13:46:00.000-05:002017-02-20T13:46:04.790-05:00Mental Health - Art of Shawn Coss<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
While May is the official Mental Health Month, I saw this post (a few months late) and had to share it. <br />
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I find art to be a beautiful and dramatic form of expressing feelings there are no words for. When it comes to mental health, art is a great way to share what's going on up there.<br />
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A friend shared this art on their facebook timeline, and perhaps you have seen it because it has 3.1million views, but Shawn Coss illustrated a few mental illnesses for Inktober and it speaks to people.<br />
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I'm sharing the depression one because it shows the fight it takes to just get up when you feel like you are being dragged down. <br />
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And also the bipolar one, because I have several friends who are afflicted with this. <br />
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Go <a href="http://www.boredpanda.com/for-inktober-i-focused-on-mental-illness-and-disorders/">HERE</a> to see the rest. Go to <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ShawnCossArtrocities/">his facebook page</a> and follow him if you want to see more of his work.</div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-75031057329613156492017-02-19T11:17:00.001-05:002017-02-19T11:17:46.092-05:00Forgiveness<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I've known a piece of the puzzle was missing for a while. <br />
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When these words were spoken, they hit me in the heart. They even left me with an action step.<br />
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"Just as we exercise and eat well for the health of our body, we practice forgiveness for the health of our soul."</blockquote>
Three things I have to say.<br />
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<b>1. Forgiving yourself is the first step to loving yourself and having happiness.</b><img alt="Image result for forgiveness" class="irc_mi" height="320" src="https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/9f/ce/2f/9fce2f1d07fb77e9a0e6f064ec3832b5.jpg" style="margin-top: 0px;" width="320" /><br />
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Oh man. This one is tough. Not forgiving yourself is a surefire way to fall back into your old ways, your old hurts, your old habits. I've been dealing with a cycle of depression and pain, and while it is not clinically bad, at the heart of it is this inability to forgive myself for the hurt I caused myself and for the guilt. I chose to stay in a state of wallowing in heartache. I did not accept the truth. I chose to blame others for my feelings. That doesn't make any sense! And it doesn't solve any problems. The answer is Forgiveness.<br />
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<b>2. Just as there are no levels of love, there are no levels of forgiveness. It's a sliding scale.</b><br />
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I have done research on the types of love. The problem all researchers get into is how to define and classify love. They break things down into 3-6 categories, then when two of them interact, they call that another form of love. It's all true and well and good, but just as the eyes can see variations in colors into the millions, so love feels and is different in variations outside of those combinations. There are more intense colors and more intense feelings of connectedness than can be classified.<br />
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<b>3. You have to PRACTICE.</b><br />
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Love in a marriage is hard to maintain. You have to work at it. That's because it is beyond the emotional highs that got you there. The love changes. It becomes something more comfortable and less exciting. Forgiveness requires that you practice it to do it. It is beyond the emotional lows that got you there. Forgiveness is more than the quick "I'm sorry" that slips out when you break someone's prized vase. It requires that you choose to actively not remember, yet still learn from it. It requires that you not hold something over another. You let it go. Don't hold grudges.<br />
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That being said, I find it easier to forgive others than myself. It's easier when the hurt you feel is caused by some small infraction. <br />
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The same holds true for yourself.<br />
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Never are my students more mad than when they are mad at themselves. That disappointment shatters your world. The fact that you are less than you thought you were, when your self-esteem crumbles, it breaks you. But you have to forgive yourself. Sometimes that means talking to others that you were angry at. You might see the folly of your feelings.<br />
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<b>So what's my action step?</b><br />
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Well, I need to stop blaming my feelings on a sweet, innocent person who has no idea that I am projecting my feelings onto them. See, I assume they would feel and react as I would if our roles were reversed. I admit that I would act terribly and feel some negative things. But without asking or talking to them, I'm left with speculation and assumption. That's foolish. People are all different. I might find it easier to forgive myself if I am absolved from my thoughts that this other person would react negatively to me.<br />
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Your action step is to Extend Forgiveness, not when you feel like it, or when you feel like they deserve it, or even wait until they ask for it. Extend it now!</div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-2097051291516167742017-02-17T10:56:00.000-05:002017-02-17T10:56:40.241-05:00Night to Shine<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I've had a couple weeks of being down in the dumps. Many things conspire and unite to bring me down. It's a bad time of year. I find myself needing to work on the Spiritual leg of my wellness triangle in order to improve the emotional/mental leg. In order to support myself emotionally, I need my friends to help my soul find its center.<br />
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So, I reached out to a couple people for chit chat and I went to church, where I reconnect with my Spiritual center. I also volunteered at <a href="https://www.timtebowfoundation.org/index.php/night-to-shine/">Night to Shine</a> which was <a href="http://www.theblaze.com/news/2017/02/14/tim-tebow-offers-people-with-special-needs-a-night-to-shine/">awesome</a>. What a great way to forget about your troubles, help others, have fun, make new friends, and be awesome!<br />
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<b>What I did</b>:</div>
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Set up, with help, the sensory room. A Sensory room is a quiet(er) space with less light, noise, and lots of HUGE pillows and a few chairs or bouncy workout balls for people to get a break from the dancing and eating and push of people. </div>
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In my room there was a special guest: Hawkeye the therapy dog!</div>
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Immediately after this event Hawkeye was <a href="http://www.tribstar.com/news/local_news/hawkeye-s-a-hit-at-hamilton-center/article_6dcbf5e7-0e06-5149-a1b8-56388e3ed53f.html">featured in the local paper</a>. </div>
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My picture during Night to Shine is not in the photo album, so you can't see me. The <a href="https://www.facebook.com/93387642361/photos/?tab=album&album_id=10154380860837362">album</a> does not come <b>close</b> to depicting all the fun that was had. My tutoring student went and his mother asked if they were going to do it again next year. I said they want to. It was an amazing event!</div>
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Then it was my parent's 40th wedding anniversary. 40 years, people! The hubby and I decided that we needed to take them out to a fancy place for early dinner and it had to be some place new. We picked the Hibachi grill here in town, called Tokyo. It's kinda like this: <br />
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We prepped them, because they do not eat food like this, that they could order steak and chicken and it comes with one little shrimp. My father asked if he needed to bring his own fork. No, Dad, you don't have to eat with chopsticks. <br />
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My mother tried shrimp for the first time. It was seasoned with the sauce that they put on everything, but she tried it! I mean, she wouldn't even eat the soup made of chicken broth... <br />
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They didn't quite get the whole show, because we were seated to the side, and they refused to allow the man to fling zucchini into their mouths, but they got out of the house and had a little dinner and a show and they didn't hate it. That's a win. You need some wins in your 40 years of marriage, don't ya think??<br />
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Well, I must go now to do other things to keep my wellness triangle balanced. <br />
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<b>Physical</b>: I have been consistently hitting 5.25 miles on the elliptical. If I go for a walk with the dog we go about 2.25 and he makes me jog sometimes. I still can't jog or run for more than a sprint. It hurts my knees and shins. But I am working on it.<br />
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<b>Emotional/Mental</b>: I will work on maintaining connections to friends. I will try to lift them up when they need me so that perhaps they will lift me up when I need them.<br />
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I also have been writing more and felt the desire to write more. This is a good thing. I've been keeping up on learning about building my author platform. It's time to begin to flesh out the framework.<br />
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I'm taking care of my pets. Let's face it, petting the cat or dog is soothing. And with the weather (winter here) being so mild, I've been able to walk the dog and get some extra physical health in.<br />
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<b>Spiritual</b>: It is high time I started highlighting or underlining scriptures in my ne Bible, transferring them from my old Bible. It's a good way to refresh what I know. Plus, the new Bible has study helps so I can learn more. </div>
ElshaHawkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03202271118296135920noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2739195484976194987.post-64607805302835840022017-01-28T13:05:00.000-05:002017-01-28T13:05:51.399-05:00Prioritizing Relationships - Friendship is Work<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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We lost my husband's Grandmother suddenly this week. This is a rose from the floral arrangement on her casket. It's been a trying a depressing week, but it has also been a week to think about family and prioritizing relationships.</div>
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Who comes first in your life?</div>
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I feel the hierarchy is thus: 1. Family and Spouse, because they are family now that they are married to you, 2. Significant others who are not married to you, 3. Friends, the closer the higher.</div>
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You will notice that I left out God or a higher power that you believe in. This is because I am not wanting to address this in this post. It should not be overlooked, however. God or whatever higher power has an omnipresence, or is everywhere, so automatically, whether you address your deity of choice or not, they are there in every aspect of your life.</div>
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Back to the hierarchy..</div>
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Never was it more obvious than in the seating arrangements at the funeral. Closest family sits up front. I know for some people the closest family might only be close in blood relation and not emotionally, however, they sit closest whether they cry for the deceased or not. Extended family are next, grandchildren, cousins, etc. Then friends and others are at the back. Sometimes a friend is as close as family and they earn a spot in the front rows. </div>
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Which got me thinking about friendship and how powerful it can be. You choose your friends. You don't choose your family. Friendship takes more work to stay close than family does. Family gets the front rows no matter what.</div>
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If you want to be able to call your friends family, then you have to spend time with them and be vulnerable with them. If you stop texting, calling, or hanging out together, then you lose status with your friend. You move them back a row or two in the seating arrangement. You might even put someone new ahead of them in the seating arrangement. How awkward is it for an old friend to see a new friend come and sit in front of them because they believe they are closer to you? How could this new friend know you better? Your old friend feels slighted and dejected. It happens all the time in life. This is why friendship is work. </div>
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I encourage you to hold your friends close this week. Text them. Call them. Spend time with them. Listen to them. Do what they want to do. Give them a gift. Be a good friend back to them. Let them know you care and you value them. If you want them in your front row, work at making them as close as family.</div>
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