I have been married for 11 years, to the same man, and while times are not always perfect, we are still together and still in love. He is my best friend. That is the most important thing. I trust him. We communicate. We share.
Remember how much fun it used to be to go out, just the two of you.. Why did that stop?
Did life get in the way? Don't let the humdrum of every day spoil the fun of one night off! Make date night a priority. Plan it like you used to. Block off a space on your calendar just for the two of you.
Maybe all you have time for is a drive into 'town' to get groceries. I don't know how many times my relationship was strengthened just by holding his hand across the seats while we drove. Talk to each other in the car. Since communication is Tip #1, here is a way to incorporate it! You are seatbelted in, you can't run, so tell him your feelings and thoughts. Tell her your dreams and plans for the future, near and far.
Half the fun of dating was sharing dreams for the future, wasn't it? Talk about house projects, where you'd like to see yourself at the end of the year, your fitness goals, your spiritual goals, or even what you would do if you won the lottery. It may open up a pathway towards compromise, understanding, forgiveness, renewed faith in your relationship, and hope.
If you have a regular date night, what do you do? If you don't, will you consider one?